Don’t Let Excuses Masked As Valid Reasons Derail Your 2021 Goals

Nicole R. Smith
6 min readDec 22, 2020

It’s seriously time to look at goal setting differently. To make 2021 count, you absolutely have to “look” at goal setting differently. If you have a track record of falling short of new year’s resolutions, I challenge you to “look” at goal setting differently this year. In my journey as a Black, Latina single mother and a two-time divorcée, I have had MANY small wins that keep propelling me forward despite my struggles and grew my confidence in overcoming obstacles and hurdles. Goal Setting played a huge role in that. They say it’s not how you start but how you finish. In goal setting however, how you start has a HUGE impact on how you finish. “Corrective Vision Goal Setting” lets you “see” goal setting through a different “lens,” understanding that what you “focus” on WILL DEVELOP.

“Looking” at goal setting differently helps take the fear out of goal setting and decreases chances of failure by helping you clearly identify your goal, maintain laser sharp focus and manage expectations. I want to share the Game On! Challenge Action Plan: six steps to help you push toward the finish line. No matter if your goal is to create and grow a vibrant volunteer program, learn how to swim, save money or learn to swim, if you follow these steps, I guarantee that your life will be different a year from now.

Just like the maze below, lift is full of twists and turns, but each one is guiding you to the end goal. Don’t let fear of the unknown keep you from starting.

The most significant difference between those who succeed and those who don’t is action. Inaction is the greatest enemy of fulfilled dreams. If you want to see yourself in a different place a week, month, or year from now, this is my challenge to you. Follow the steps below.

The gauntlet has been thrown. Are you up to the task?

Game. On.

Let’s Get Started…

G — Write Down Your Goal.

Writing your goal makes it tangible; it registers differently in your brain than merely thinking about it. When you write down your goal, you can look at it in the morning before you leave your home and at night before you go to sleep as a constant reminder. Your goal should be attainable, have a specific end date and the result should be based on the work that you put into it.

A — Assess/Ask/Accountability

To move toward your goal, you have to be honest with yourself about where you are now. Conduct an unbiased assessment or ask someone to give you constructive criticism regarding your starting point. Then choose someone (or a group of people) who will keep you accountable to your goal. Remember, not just anyone should be your accountability partner. Stay tuned to an upcoming blog post on how to do just that.

M — Make a Plan

It’s time to make a road map. You have your destination in mind (your goal). Your plan is the map showing how to get there. The great thing is that there are many ways to arrive at a destination. For now, all you have to do is START! Don’t let perfection be the enemy of the great. Everything doesn’t have to be perfect for you to start. Write out the plan and see where it takes you. Every small step will get you one closer to your goal and as you travel toward your journey’s end, you can adjust along the way if needed.

E — Envision the Plan Coming to Pass

Create a vision board of your dream as it will look fully realized. Put it somewhere you can see it every day. Include pictures of yourself in your dream role. Every morning before you leave your home and at night before going to bed, repeat the dream out loud as though it has already come to pass. Check out these two resources on how to create a vision board!

O — Overcome Challenges and Self-Doubt

Write down all the concerns you have and every reason why your dream may not come to pass. Identify them as valid concerns disguised as excuses. Come up with a solution to overcome each challenge.


Concern: I don’t have enough money.

Solutions: Get a second job; exchange services; apply for grants or scholarships.

Concern: I don’t have enough time.

Solution: Perform a time audit of your day to see where you can make time.

Concern: I don’t have enough resources.

Solution: See how you can barter or network with others.

N — Never Give Up!

You will get frustrated — that’s inevitable. The important thing is that you keep getting back up after falling. Keep starting over, no matter what rejection or push back you may face or how many times you may “fail” or get it wrong. In every “failure”, there is a lesson to be learned. Once you learn it, you can apply that lesson the next time you try. Seek guidance. Try different solutions. If this seed has been planted in you and is growing, do not give up until it comes to fruition. You will be miserable if you don’t.

Join me for my next Goal Setting Guided Workshop. Register Today! This session will: Reveal habits that are subconsciously sabotaging you / Expose you to new ways of looking goal setting / Create a less daunting way to achieve your goal / Help you to find time that you didn’t realize you had / Learn how to choose the right accountability partner, and of course, unveil the secret sauce, the most important aspect of goal setting. Register Before January 15, 2020 and use Promo Code GameON to receive $50 off registration

You will receive:

1 hour guided group goal setting workshop instruction

Game On! Relentlessly Pursue Your Dreams Workbook — Click Here For Free Download as a Gift!

Game On! Relentlessly Pursue Your Dreams Affirmations Journal

Autographed Game On! Relentlessly Pursue Your Dreams Paperback

Game On! Relentlessly Pursue Your Dreams Audio Book

Game On! Pen/Stylus/Cell Phone Holder

Access to Private Game On Accountability Facebook Group

3 personalized check in sessions

Nicole is a Panamanian-American, workforce development specialist, dancer, motivational speaker and published author of Game On! Relentlessly Pursue Your Dreams and the 101 Affirmations Journal Series. She attended Oral Roberts University on a Division I full-ride track scholarship. After graduating, she founded Step It Up! Inc., a non-profit dance organization. Her experience in sports and entertainment, radio, TV and the performing arts has spanned nearly 20 years covering the Chicago, Houston and Miami markets. She has danced and cheered for four Professional and Semi-Professional sports teams, has prepared more than 500 interns to enter the workforce and has inspired crowds upwards of 2000. In 2020 she received the Emerging Leaders ALIVE Impact Award and joined the Board of Association of Leaders In Volunteer Management. In 2019, She joined the Board of the Arts and Business Council of Miami was listed as one of WLRN’s “Local Women Who Inspire You” , was selected as one of Legacy Miami’s MOST PROMINENT AND INFLUENTIAL BLACK WOMEN IN BUSINESS AND INDUSTRY OF 2019 and became a contributing writer for The Life of a Single Mom.



Nicole R. Smith

Nicole is a Panamanian-American, single mom, workforce development specialist, published author, dancer, and motivational speaker. Her experience spans 20 yrs.